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3.5 years

Becca — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 18:01:20 +0000

Today Gray and I have been married for 3-1/2 years! I actually forgot until Gray texted me to say so this morning, gotta love a man who remembers the small details.

I am grateful for such a loving and fun husband. He really does know me the best. Love you!

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Moving Day

Becca — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 20:08:37 +0000

Tomorrow we are moving to our third apartment/home after being married. This is also the first time we’re hiring movers, so I hope everything goes well! Today I’m packing up the car and driving up to meet Gray and we’re going to sign the lease.

So, here’s to a new adventure, see you guys on the flip side!

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A Journey Ending

Becca — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 13:15:54 +0000

For the past several days I’ve dealt with a lot of stress. The majority is self-induced, because I’m a procrastinator and a perfectionist. I want to do my best but I get tired of putting in a lot of effort for little resort… or even worse, I put in little effort and get As.

I have less than a week of school left and there is one class that I’m struggling to beat. I am currently passing the class, but not by much, and the final will be a doozy. I told myself I’d never let myself be in this situation again after Pathophysiology, but I feel like this time around it wasn’t entirely my fault. Without going into details, I’ve studied a lot for this class and feel like my efforts have done nothing. It’s a really hard place to be in, knowing you’ve studied and sacrificed so much of yourself, your life, your family and friends… and the result is negative.

However, the other day when I first felt myself breaking apart, Gray was there being exactly what I needed. There may be moments in our marriage when I fall into the trap of thinking he’s not good enough or not what I had pictured, but on Monday he washed away those previous thoughts. I can’t believe that our third anniversary is so close and we’ve come so far in those three years.

So I will be spending the next six days studying and taking my exams. I’m going to do my best and then well, I don’t know the plans God has for me, but perhaps it isn’t to finish nursing school. I need to accept that God knows what is best for me. There is a journey here and it might either just be starting or it could be finishing.

Gray, however, is finishing his journey. He graduates the 7th and I’m so proud of him. He’s already had several interviews and now we’re just waiting and hoping.

I hope I have good news to bring to you in the coming weeks, but until then, check out the giveaway we are doing with Sneak Attack Media.

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Post tags: anniversary, college, graduation, Gray, marriage, Nursing School

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2011′s Resolutions or Goals

Becca — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 18:25:41 +0000

Last year I didn’t really bother with resolutions or goals, other than doing Project 365. I figured, I had the 101 in 1001 days list, so I decided to just stick with it.

I’m still working on that list, but I thought I’d lay out some goals for this year.

Read my bible daily – It’s something I struggle with and want to do better. My goal is to read daily, or as much as possible. I hope this becomes a habit as it has been in the past.
Read through a couple’s devotional with Gray – We have a couple’s Bible so I’d like to do this daily as well. We’re going to set aside a time of the day that works for both of us and keep to it.
Exercise 3-4 times a week – I have no plans for any races at the moment, although I’d like to do the Middle half again in October. My current plan is to stick with my workout Wii games. I just bought the Zumba for Wii and it’s pretty awesome so far. We also just bought an Xbox with Kinect so I’m sure those games will be fun.
Read for pleasure – I know this may seem silly, but I have a stack of 20 books beside my bed, not to mention 40 on my kindle app. I’d like to read for at least 15-30 minutes each day, if not more.
Drink 8 cups of water each day.
Blog 2-3 times a week about something besides photos and weight loss – When I did my year in review, I realized that there wasn’t much to choose from, except in November. While I can’t say I’ll blog every day, I want to make more posts that are interesting.
Eat healthier – We’ve made the switch to gluten-free and I now have several cookbooks that give me options for more than just the same meals over and over. I’d like to meal plan according to what we need to eat… aka the food pyramid. I need to start planning our meals to make sure we’re getting the proper nutrition.
Date Night – I want to set aside time as a couple each week to do something together… whether it’s watch a movie, play a board game, go out, whatever it is… it would just be the two of us.

I may add to this list as I think of it, but this is just a start of what I’d like to carry out this year. I think this first semester of school will be tough because I’ll be starting clinicals and I’ll be working on Saturdays. My days are going to be harder but I’m sure I can adjust. I just need to make the important things of life a priority, which means I’ll have to stay away from the internet more, or at least be more productive with my time on the internet.

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2-1/2 years

Becca — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 15:10:22 +0000

That’s how long we’ve been married now.

The other day I polled facebook and twitter to find out when the newlywed stage ends.

The majority gave me until 2 years of marriage.

So I guess that means we’re just old farts now.

In all seriousness, it gets better every day.

The first year was hard, I know they all say that, but I promise you it’s hard enough and then you throw in unemployment and college and it’s really complicated.

However, we survived and I like to think we grew closer because of it, although I won’t be sad when we’re no longer in school.

Our first 3 (at least) years of marriage will have been in an apartment, well 2 apartments. We’ve started discussing plans for when Gray graduates. It will entirely depend on where he gets a job. If his job is in Nashville, it’s more likely we’d move closer to his job and I would commute to school. However, if his job is local, we might consider looking for a house. I think it’s so weird to think than in a year we might be in our first home.

Who knows! We’ll go where the Lord leads and right now, I’m happy knowing that he knows where we will be because I’m too busy living life.

I love you, Gray.

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On myself

Becca — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 15:42:31 +0000

I like the world to think I have everything together. I don’t normally complain about much in my life to my friends or family, poor Gray is truly the only one I complain to these days.

However, there are days where I lose it, and where the world seems to fall apart.

Yesterday was one of those days.

If anything, it showed me that I am a human being and that I need to go to God far more than I do. He should be my shoulder and my strength, but far too often I try to do everything myself.

I am not perfect, my marriage is not perfect, my life is not perfect.

I struggle daily with my image, that I’m 30 pounds heavier than I was 3 years ago. I’ve struggled to lose that weight since I got married and it’s been a back and forth deal. I realized that I over eat and I also feed my emotions or cravings. I’ve lost six pounds the past three weeks by changing my diet and exercising more. I don’t look at myself as fat, per say, I just see the extra fat. Actually, what makes me truly unhappy is not fitting into my clothes. I have several pairs of jeans/shorts that I can’t pull over my thighs or that give me a muffin top.

My marriage is hard work, especially now that school has started. We’re adjusting to a new schedule that include Gray having a night class which means on Mondays we hardly see each other at all. I’m beginning to feel the effects of this on our marriage and myself, I miss him a lot. Because of this, we have to make more time for each other and take advantage of the time we do have. This means that I must work around his schedule more than my own. I’m super glad we got rid of cable television because it means that I’m not a slave to the television. I actually spend most of my time at work watching television, at least when I’m not wrangling the students. If anything, I’ve learned more the past few weeks that marriage is hard work, but so worth it in the end.

Life has been very busy the past few weeks and while I appreciate being busy because it leaves little time to worry or be anxious, it doesn’t mean I shouldn’t slow down and enjoy life. This weekend, other than studying my butt off for my Tuesday test, we’re going running, possibly touring the new hospital, and enjoying a free outing to the Country Music Hall of Fame. We’re neither one a huge fan of country music, but at least we’ll have some fun and enjoy something new… maybe even a stroll at Centennial Park.

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Protected: On how I scared Gray this week…

Becca — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 18:30:45 +0000

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Post tags: future, Nursing School, preparation

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It’s a Love Story

Becca — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 11:00:31 +0000

So, I was listening to Taylor Swift’s “You Belong with Me” and decided to look up and watch the music video. You know, the music video that won her an award where Kanye decided to be a douche. Yeah, that one.

This video made me cry (at the library none-the-less) and I started thinking about why.

You see, women are fed a lot of crap by the media. We’re told we should be perfectly skinny, great hair and makeup, and of course, land the man of our dreams.

After watching that video, a little part of my heart cried out for a love like that. Seriously.

Now I am happily married to a great man, but even I still fall victim to these thoughts. You know, the ones when you watch a great romance where the couple are happily ever after in love? Well, when I was done with this music video, I began to remind myself that although they seem all happily ever after in love, that’s where it cuts off. They don’t show the bad moments, the ones where they probably fought a lot about petty little issues.

See, I do have that happily ever after in love with Gray, but it’s not without other issues. That’s just called being a human.

I guess what I’m trying to say, is that it is SO easy to get caught up in a perfect love story that you forget to remember that it’s not real or realistic at all. Yes, you CAN have a great love story, but it’s not going to be without some kind of hurt. We watch these perfect love stories and then feel unsatisfied when our own lives go off rail. “Why can’t my life be like that?” Because it’s not real.

When I look back on 2008, the year I got married, I remember thinking that the entire year just plain sucked. Getting married did not pull me out of a funk that is called trying to find a job in a lousy economy. It did not save me from the fact that I thought marriage would be an easy ride without hardships. OK, so I knew there would be hardships, but it’s like I would forgot about that until I hit a bump.

The point being is that marriage did not make me any happier. It didn’t solve any of my problems. It gave me a lot, that is for sure, because my husband is pretty awesome, but he’s not without faults. I am not without faults.

When I watch movies like Pride and Prejudice I get sucked into all the romance and just wish Gray would be a little more like Mr. Darcy. It’s not fair to Gray at all.

Just some observances from my own marriage and thoughts. I do like a good romance story, but a lot of them are just female porn, making us believe love is a certain perfect way, when it’s not.

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One and a half years

Becca — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 11:33:25 +0000

A year and a half ago I became Mrs. Sanborn. Time has really flown! It’s hard to believe that we first liked each other four years ago this month.

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Finally the Fall

Becca — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 13:08:36 +0000

I can’t believe it is October already. I seem to be stubborn in the fact that it is quickly becoming too cold to wear my croc sandals anymore. Me stubborn? hah.

Today Gray and I have been married for one year and five months. It is hard to believe that next month will be a year and a half. Where is the time going?! The second year has already been better than the first year, a pattern I can only hope continues in the future. We’ve got several activities going on this month already. This weekend we will be on the A-Team at church, which helps to set everything up and then takes it down after the service. Next weekend is fall break so we’re going to McEwen for a few days and then to Memphis for a few days. I’m looking forward to the visits. The weekend after that includes a Halloween costume party and the weekend after that is Halloween!

I am actually going to do a few project this weekend, including carving my pumpkin (hopefully) and something deco-rational for our party. If it turns out well, I’ll post pictures.

I took Gray with me to the Rec. Center yesterday. I asked him if he would go running with me and then the rain started so we opted to go inside. He ended up just walking around the track, and I ran about 2.62 miles. I finally mapped out how many laps is 3.1 (5k) miles so I can train in there if I want to. I got the nike+ ipod gadget this past week and it’s great! Of course, I have to calibrate it to the right amount of distance, but it is still useful. THe only thing left for my running gear is a heart-rate monitoring watch. I have one that I want to get and it’s only $50-60.. maybe for Christmas?

Oh! We made a beef stew last night in the crock pot and it was amazing. It came from my S&D magazine so I’ll try to post the recipe the next time I make it… I do believe it will become a staple!

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Post tags: 5k, cooking, costume parties, Halloween, running

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